Posts Tagged ‘friend’

Being a Friend Means Making Thoughtful Choices

Monday, April 15th, 2013

friendGrandpa John took his grandson Orrie and his friend, Jay to the movie theater.

There is special seating for children and adults using wheelchairs. This seating area is behind the last row of seats in the theater. This is where Orrie needs to sit. There are chairs in this area, where a friend or two can sit with the child or adult sitting in a wheelchair.friend

While Orrie is getting settled in the theater, Jay stands on line to get a bag of popcorn for himself and one for  his friend, Orrie.

Jay meets Hector on line and Hector invites him to sit with him in the front of the theater where he tells Jay he can see the movie better. Jay has been waiting to see this movie and doesn’t want to miss any of it.

Is it okay for Jay to give Orrie his popcorn and tell him he is going to sit up front with Hector and will see him after the movie is over? If he is a good friend, what else can he do? What would you do?

What about asking Hector to sit with him and Orrie in the special seating area? Then they could all watch the movie together.  friend

Kathy is a Flat Leaver!

Friday, March 9th, 2012

Nellie got out of Grandma Hattie’s car and ran up to Grandma Maureen’s house to call for Kathy.

KathyShe and Kathy had a play date. They were going ice skating at the community center rink.

She rang the bell and Grandma Maureen answered. “Hi Grandma Maureen,” said Nellie. “Grandma Hattie is going to drive Kathy and me to the ice rink for a play date.”

Grandma Maureen looked concerned and said, “Nellie, Kathy isn’t here. She left an hour ago with Maria, They were going to see the new movie opening today at the “Can Do” theater.”

Nellie got teary eyed and when she spoke it was in an angry voice, saying,”Kathy and I made skating plans on Monday and we talked about it again yesterday. She knew I was coming to pick her up today. How could she just go off and not even call me and cancel our play date? That’s not fair, why she is nothing more than a flat leaver!”

With that, Nellie turned and ran back to the car. Grandma Maureen followed her.  By the time Grandma Maureen got to the car, Nellie had told Grandma Hattie what had happened.  The grandmas talked outside the car and then Grandma Maureen told Nellie that she would have Kathy call her and apologize.

“No,” answered Nellie. “I don’t want her to call. What she did was wrong and mean. She is a flat leaver, a kid who promises to do something with one friend and then ,if she gets a better offer, goes off with someone else and leaves the first friend flat.”

Grandma Maureen had to agree that what Kathy did was not something that friends do to each other. She decided to let the girls sort it out themselves.

On the way to the ice rink Grandma Hattie asked Nellie what she was going to do about Kathy.

“Well, said Nellie, “When I see her in school on Monday I am going to tell her that she hurt my feelings. I am going to say that I don’t want to make plans to do anything with her because I  don’t trust a flat leaver!”

The Bike

Monday, February 20th, 2012

bikeYundi was riding his bike when Jay flagged him down. Jay told Yundi he needed to borrow his bike to get to the library before it closed in a half an hour.  He explained that he left his book there and he needed it to do his homework.

Yundi could see that Jay was upset, but he wasn’t so sure it was a good idea to lend him the bike. The bike was a birthday present form his grandma. His parents had been very clear about him not lending the bike to anyone.

“Please,” said Jay.”It is too far to walk. I’ll never get there before the library closes. If I don’t get that book I will be in big trouble with mom and dad and with Miss Pat.”

Yundi said,”I can get in big trouble with my parents if they find out I lent the bike to anyone. They’ll take it away from me and I won’t be able to ride it for weeks and I love this bike.”

Jay looked sad, then angry. “I thought you were my friend. Friends help each other out. Some friend you are!” Then Jay started to walk away.

“Wait, I have an idea, said Yundi,”I can help you and still not get in trouble for lending my bike.”

Jay looked confused, “How?”

Yundi smiled, “Tell me what your book looks like and where you think you left it and I’ll go get it for you. Keep your cell phone on so I can call you if there is a problem.”

Before Jay could answer, Yundi was off to the library. As it turned out, someone had found the book and turned it into the librarian at the front desk. Yundi called Jay and had him tell the librarian it was okay that he pick up the book for Jay.

When Yundi got the book back to Jay, Jay apologized for what he had said, saying,” You really are a good friend. I’m sorry I didn’t understand about your not being able to lend your bike to anyone.”

Yundi smiled, “I have to get home. See you tomorrow, Jay.”

Jay tucked his book under his arm and started to walk home. Well, he thought, I have my book and I am really lucky to have a good friend like Yundi.